Broken
Right then! Due to recent events regarding a broken finger (e.g. my husband's), and some other various e-mails I've received, I am trying to contemplate something : human dissociativeness and detachment. What does all that mean? I am becoming disturbed that we, well, especially Christians, are not joining in with others' trials. I don't know if it's just a human nature/self protective device in our brains or what, but it's becoming really troublesome to me.
I was taught that when someone is hurt, you get down with them, clean their wounds, and (here's they key part regarding my particular interest) give them a hug, and tell them, it will be alright . Maybe we're losing compassion, or maybe we're all frustrated that we cannot "fix" everything, but I believe we're lacking the second part of that little lesson. I have witnessed (in my own life) the habit of dismissing other people's problems after I pray about it with them once. I don't often think about other people or what they're going through long enough to follow up. Maybe that's the real issue : follow up.
Perhaps also what I am seeing is just a natural result of the fact that we're also human, and we cannot join with everyone who is mourning, or are capable of completely bearing one another's pain, or we would die from the experience. I guess overall I am longing to change how I empathize with other people, especially my family - because I can join them in rejoicing or mourning, and at a deeper level than say, an acquaintance. I may be able to better empathize with my husband over having a broken finger & being set back in his music & practicing (and the depression that follows), as well as how this will impact him in the long - term (broken bones that are located in repetitive use areas of the body are much more likely to cause arthritis) as far as his career goes. So, perhaps what I am seeing is a combo of both human nature and a choice to detach from other peoples' pains & struggles.
Until next time, hopefully this blog will remind me to strive to get down (or up) on other people's levels - to see what they're going through, and to stand by them as they go through it.
I was taught that when someone is hurt, you get down with them, clean their wounds, and (here's they key part regarding my particular interest) give them a hug, and tell them, it will be alright . Maybe we're losing compassion, or maybe we're all frustrated that we cannot "fix" everything, but I believe we're lacking the second part of that little lesson. I have witnessed (in my own life) the habit of dismissing other people's problems after I pray about it with them once. I don't often think about other people or what they're going through long enough to follow up. Maybe that's the real issue : follow up.
Perhaps also what I am seeing is just a natural result of the fact that we're also human, and we cannot join with everyone who is mourning, or are capable of completely bearing one another's pain, or we would die from the experience. I guess overall I am longing to change how I empathize with other people, especially my family - because I can join them in rejoicing or mourning, and at a deeper level than say, an acquaintance. I may be able to better empathize with my husband over having a broken finger & being set back in his music & practicing (and the depression that follows), as well as how this will impact him in the long - term (broken bones that are located in repetitive use areas of the body are much more likely to cause arthritis) as far as his career goes. So, perhaps what I am seeing is a combo of both human nature and a choice to detach from other peoples' pains & struggles.
Until next time, hopefully this blog will remind me to strive to get down (or up) on other people's levels - to see what they're going through, and to stand by them as they go through it.
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